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The Michael Connection

Michael Jackson was a intricate part of our household growing up like most people. However, in my house he was the "family business." This was because my cousin was a Michael Jackson look-a-like back in the early 80's. He walked like him, talked like him, and dressed like him. He wore the glove and rode in limos to gigs.

I remember watching him for hours mastering the new steps that Micheal revealed during Motown 25, like the moonwalk. I attended show after show after show where he performed. Girls really thought that he was MJ and would chase him and try to pull him off the stage. There were times when I even felt the adrenaline and joined in on the fan frenzy antics.

So growing up I felt that I really "had Michael" as Maya Angelou put it. I feel the nullifying sadness of his departure. But his energy is still strong on this earth because he transformed that energy to others through his lyrics, images, and human connections. You see, I know this because the first law of physics states that "Energy cannot be created or destroyed, just transformed." Thus, he has left indelible imprints on the minds of the people and became a part of us.

Some say there will never be "another" however, I beg to differ. I hope there is "another" because we as humans have not even tapped into the true power of our great minds and talents. Michael Jackson demonstrated the genius that we all have somewhere. He was just able to tap into it sooner. But to say that there will never be another defeats the purpose of life. To say that that we will never see another Michael renders the world hopeless and there will be nothing to look forward to.

So I disagree. There will be another MJ, another MLK, another Obama, another Beethoven, etc. You get my drift. Of course, they will not have the same body, mind, or even name. But they will demonstrate the same greatness. The same genius and make similar human connections who will transform the hearts of millions. They may even comeback as the incarnate of themselves. Who knows?

As for me, I'm inspired to find my own genius and make connections that will be felt around the world. I guarantee I won't be dancing though.

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The First Step Is NOT the hardest!

Anyone who says the first step is the hardest must be crazzzzzy! Sure according to the laws of physics it takes more energy to initiate something like a reaction or to overcome potential energy. But once you get it going it takes endurance to keep it going which ultimately uses a lot more energy. Ask anyone who has went back to school after a sabbatical, a long career, or after having a family. Signing up and taking the first class seems like the hardest part but to me its the next ten classes, the next cold your child gets when you have a paper to write, or the realization that you have to fit in some quality time with the hubby at some point. It's at this time, somewhere in the middle of you goals or journey, that you are ready to ..... (you fill in the blank) lose it? Throw in the towel? Run from the scene? SNAP!?

It's the maintenance of life that I have the most challenging time with personally. The day-to-day-to day-to-day-to-day-to-day stuff that I have not been able to master. I am just not management material. I'm more of a leader. I can see the big picture, motivate and enthuse. Sometimes I feel that I am barely hanging on by a thread mentally. That's how I know that I am out of my element as a stay-at-home mom.

My children are beautiful, wonderful, and brilliantly made. But people are trained to do particular things such as practicing law, medicine, spelunking, and schooling children particularly below the age of 6. Let the professionals do what they love and are trained to do for heavens sake! What's wrong with that? Mothers do not have to be equipped to do everything. It's unrealistic and detracts from motherhood when we are expected to be everything to everyone without getting weary.

I know for sure that biblical women had maidservants to help with childcare and housework so that they could be "the virtuous woman" and "rise up early" to go handle "business in the city." And you know what? She still earned the respect of her God, her family, and her community (Proverbs 31).

When we say that we could never be a certain profession like an artist or a high school teacher, we say it because we know our nature and our own temperament. This is the same for moms, we should know what we are capable of. Can we stay at home all day with our children? Some can. Can you cater to them morning, noon and night...for breakfast, lunch and dinner (and snacks)? Some can.

For me, some days are more productive and positive than others. But it is getting more challenging everyday. That is why instead of reaching my brink, I am making plans to switch out of my role. I am recruiting those who are trained to consistently stimulate the minds of children and who has the energy and equipment to do so efficiently so that I can have some me time, thinking time, reinvention time. Whatever you want to call it. Because if you are not mentally present, you're not present. So I am listening to myself instead going against my natural self.

My two week trip is the beginning of this transition. I am counting down the days, 6 to be exact. I will be able to think clear and completed thoughts, sleep in, go out, stay in, socialize, and not socialize. Oh and of course attend my classes and seminars during the day since the main purpose is for my graduate school conference requirement.

When you know yourself, go with your intuition, and make the decision to keep yourself sane. You only have one mind after all.

When you crash into a pole...

You know you have to reevaluate your life when you crash into a pole. In broad daylight. In a parking lot. It's like the universe is telling you... No forcing you to STOP! PAY ATTENTION! SLOW DOWN!. Determining what to stop becomes the challenging part once you regain your senses.

I am all things to all people so it seems. A mother, a daughter, a sister, a wife, a teacher, and a student which contains of all the sub-roles that come with these primary roles. I grapple with wanting to continue to be a stay at home mom (SAHM) and a graduate student on a daily basis because I just don't get how to do it on a continuous basis with a gleeful heart.

I hear Dr. Laura who "praises stay at home moms." I hear Suze Orman who says "get your butt out there and work if you have debt." I hear my children clamouring for my attention every moment of the day wanting mental and physical stimulation which they have grown accustomed to getting. And I hear the little voice in my head saying to retain my "sense of self" which seems to wilt on a daily basis. Keeping afloat mentally is a challenge. How do you decide what to do when the universe is speaking to you? It's hard to listen when your thoughts are dominated by the ceaseless requests and expectations of others.

Perhaps next week I'll hear the answer on my first solo trip for two weeks away from it all. Perhaps I'll be able to hear the answer and have an epiphany. Because when you hit a pole, you'd be crazy not to listen for the answer. Stayed tuned for that daily blog on my mini hiatus revolution.